The Truth About Bulimia and Anorexia

Remuda|Ranch|Bulimia|treatment|center December 21, 2008

Battling Bulimia

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When my therapist recommended inpatient treatment, I stopped seeing him. I was certainly not “that sick”. If I could just find happiness, my bulimia might go away.

My parents were healthcare professionals who gave us a great home, love and many advantages growing up, but there were unspoken high expectations.

My brother, sister and I were high achieving, straight-A students. The “perfect” family outwardly, my spirit was wounded when I did not receive the time and attention I needed from my well-intentioned father. Unknowingly, I was developing a strong hunger for male attention that would later cause me grief. In high school I excelled in sports, and that became the key to my individuality and identity, creating a limelight that did not include my siblings.

My goal was playing volleyball at a well-known NCAA championship college. A knee injury during my freshman year crushed my dreams of becoming a college star—much less an Olympic player. I don’t remember when it started, but soon I was telling myself regularly: “You don’t deserve to eat because you aren’t exercising.” I could find no other identity beyond sports that allowed me to accept myself. In four months I dropped from 184 lbs. to 127 lbs., which, when combined with my height of 6’ 3”, gave me a very thin, model-like appearance. The appreciative way that men looked at me was new and exciting. With all the comments about my weight loss, I felt a sense of achievement and power. I received modeling offers and enjoyed the admiring looks men gave me when I wore my swimsuit. Finally, I was receiving the attention from men that I had longed for. Perhaps I didn’t need my father’s attention after all! I had again found an individuality and identity that provided the limelight I desperately needed to feel good about myself.

Soon, unable to maintain the demented discipline of my self-imposed starvation, and yet needing desperately to keep my new identity, I began to binge…and ultimately to purge. I remember vividly the first time I ate sugar after those four months of starvation. Our family gathered at a traditional July four celebration with friends. After allowing myself a piece of the red, white and blue cake, I shamefully ended up in the pantry finishing off the cake. When I returned to college in August, my eating was still out of control. Shame and the fear of growing fat in front of my peers caused me to start lying to those I loved in order to protect myself. At the end of the semester I decided to transfer to another college because I felt I would be “safe” being an unknown. I deceived my parents by telling them that I was no longer interested in the NCAA championship college if I couldn’t play volleyball. In truth, if I made new friends now, they wouldn’t compare how I looked when I was thin to “fat” me. My fear made me an expert at isolation. Food became my only friend and comfort during those years of isolation.

I took as many as sixty laxatives three or four nights a week. Many nights were spent in the bathtub because I was so sick that I would mess my bed before I could get to the bathroom. By this time my knee was healed, and I found a new passion and purge): mountain biking and hiking. Outwardly I was a picture of health, but inside I was slowly dying. Due to my height, I was easily remembered by people, which only served to deepen my pain. I felt they only noticed that I didn’t look as good as when I was last seen. I avoided family holidays because my fear of appearing fatter or less attractive led to increased laxative abuse. I habitually called in sick to work and concocted a story about having a disease caused by drinking stream water. My size and demeanor intimidated most people, so few would confront my behavior, and I became skillful at intimidation, deception and manipulation. The only person who confronted me regularly and without fear was my mother, so she became the focus of my increasing anger. Pain and fear became my new identity. The inevitability of hospitalization grew as my pain became unbearable, and I began to accept that my body and life were endangered. Frightened and desperate, I told my parents I needed help.

six painful months after my therapist’s confrontation, I admitted my powerlessness and entered inpatient treatment. I found the structure that I needed to begin the recovery process. I lacked the order and discipline in an outpatient setting to even complete the assignments my therapist gave me. Discussing my issues and the resulting emotions always helped while I was in his office. I left each visit with renewed hope and conviction but continued to run into an abyss of bulimia, alcohol, pot and men to numb the pain. Frustration diminished my hope and the feeling of helplessness worsened. The inpatient treatment setting provided the time, safety and accountability I needed to slow down and begin the recovery process. I learned to trust the staff and had time to test relationships. It was important to be in treatment with other eating disordered women. At first, though, I told myself that I wasn’t as sick as they were or my problems weren’t as bad as theirs. However, bold, loving confrontations by staff and peers forced me to face my pain, and I learned about trusting, intimacy and vulnerability. The structured environment and common disease etiology provided an atmosphere in which I could see my pain in their suffering as their insight helped me with my memory work. The very ill patients among us, with their emaciated bodies and diminished lives from their eating disorders, scared me and got my attention. Before treatment I wished that someone would control my food, but in treatment I hated that control for which I had longed. I know now how important it was to my recovery.

I was in treatment long enough to begin to recreate my family dynamics with staff and peers a very important piece of my treatment experience. As I began to experience my triggers, I was unable to run to my illness or other unhealthy coping mechanisms. Inner growth began as I endured the emotional hurt and began to solve my problems. Success at problem solving led to contentment and victory over the triggers. That feeling of contentment gave me courage to carry out the new coping skills I was learning. Only in this structured setting, did I feel safe enough to risk this personal growth stage.

I believe that without my eventual hospitalization I would not have recovered sucssesfully. This program I entered had a spiritual component, which was very important to me. The focused Christian approach provided consistent input from the staff. I learned to transfer the trust I had in them to lord and savior. The recognition of my lack of power and my need for a relationship with god is the basis of my recovery.

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Warning signals of an eating disorder include: isolation, compulsivity, many trips to the bathroom, frequent illness, wieght. fluctuation, inappropriate focus on exercise and food, and an inability to maintain intimacy in relationships. If you think you have an eating disorder, consult a professional. Without treatment, it will never go away.

three years later, I am happily married with a beautiful daughter and another one on the way. For a time, I worked as an advocate for patients with their insurance companies in the same program where I was once a patient. I understand that life is a path strewn with challenges, achievements and failures. But failure is often the foundation for great successes! I now know what it means to be healthy and successful and it has nothing to do with being thin!

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Programs for Eating Disorders

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Parents need to trust basic instincts regarding their child. Mothers, in particular, often possess a heightened awareness of their childrens distress. Frequently, if a mother/father thinks thier child is experiencing emotional difficulties, she is correct. If parents suspect their child may have an eating disorder, several action steps are recommended:

Pay attention to your child’s changes in eating patterns, weight fluctuations, or mood alterations such as sadness or anxiety.
Parents will benefit by educating themselves on eating disorders–what they are, how they may manifest, what warning signs to look for. Accurate information regarding these disorders can be located at local libraries or on the Internet at websites such as www.nationaleatingdisorders.org or www.anad.org.

It is also recommended that parents take a personal inventory of their own eating patterns. It is particularly important for mothers to examine their own perceptions of weight, dieting, and the value placed on their own appearance. Because mothers often serve as a daughter’s role model, the mother’s perceptions can have a profound influence on her daughters thoughts and behaviors. In fact, a daughter may simply be mimicking a mother’s behavior by dieting and becoming inordinately focused on body size. Once recognized, any unhealthy habits regarding food and appearance must undergo change. It is wise to pose such questions as: Do I eat 3 meals a day with a variety of food groups? Do I label food as good or bad? Am I obsessed with calories, fat, or weight gain?
If the family does not eat meals together, this is a good time to start. Spending time together, enjoying a balanced meal and one-another’s company can strengthen the family and open lines of communication. Yet, this is not the time to address concerns over a possible eating disorder. Speaking prematurely may cause the child to become more secretive in her behavior.

If parents have educated themselves about eating disorders, accumulated objective information from observing their child, and still believe that an eating disorder exists, then a dialogue is called for. First, it must be decided whether both parents will take part. Depending on the family dynamic, the child may feel more comfortable speaking with just 1 parent, though it must always be stressed that the parents are in agreement with one another on the need for intervention. The conversation must be well thought out in advance and the time and place must be carefully chosen. The location needs to be as nonthreatening as possible, and the time chosen when other stressors, conflicts, and distractions are at a minimum. When speaking with the child, it is recommended that the parent use “I” statements such as “I feel concerned about you,” and objective statements such as “I have noticed your clothes are getting loose on you.” List in a cocise order the evidence that you have accumulated. The parent needs to be nonjudgmental, sincere, empathetic, an active listener, and aware of nonverbal body cues.

Despite best efforts, the child may display resistance, denial, and anger. If a parent can view anger as a legitimate, healthy emotion that is worthy of expression, and not react to the anger with defensiveness or additional anger but with a listening heart, then the talk will have a greater chance of a positive situation. Such fruit would be the boy’s willingness to share what is troubling him, such as “fred dumped me for lucy because she’s thinner,” or “I’m afraid to go to college.” End the conversation if going nowhere or if he becomes upset. But leave the window open for further conversations. Have patience: If rejected, try later, explaining that you are coming back because you think the situation is very serious.

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Despite these efforts, resistance and denial may prove stronger and negate honesty and openness. In the absence of self-harming, or suicidal behavior or talk thereof, if eating disorder behavior continues for more than one month it is recommended that the parents seek professional help. Often this starts with a doctor who can establish the medical severity of the illness, evidence of bingeing and purgeing, the discontinuation of the menstrual cycle, etc. A therapist is then consulted to determine level of care, which may be as minimaly as a week counseling session or as intensive as residential treatment. If the child is unwilling to visit a professional, the parents may do so on their own for counsel and assistance with the situation. But always respond during emergencies: If the child is throwing up several times per day, complaining of chest pain, talking about suicide, or engaging in self-mutilating behavior, get help immediately.

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Anxiety Disorder Treatment

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Today, anxiety disorders are the most commonly diagnosed psychiatric illnesses in younger people. These disorders are more common in girls than are boys and range from a generalized fear of social groups to anxiety that is so paralyzing, the boy/girl can no longer leave the home. Often, such disorders are extremely mystifying and difficult for parents to understand. However, instructing a young person or adolescent to “get over it” or “just suck it up” is not a wise course of action; it rarely works. Just as with a physical illness or injury, such as a broken arm, the expertise of a physician or counselor should be sought.

The first step is outpatient therapy. Depending on whether the family takes their daughter to a therapist or psychiatrist, the professional may utilize medication, specialized cognitive or behavioral techniques, play therapy, family therapy, or a combination of these approaches. Although outpatient treatment can prove effective, if there are not positive results, then more intensive treatment may be indicated. In addition, if a family lives where no outpatient therapy exists for young people with anxiety disorders, inpatient treatment is usually recommended.

If left untreated, a young person can experience: low self esteem and damaged sense of identity; frequent school absences impaired social development and problems with peers and dating; eating disorders; self-harm; and heightened risk of alcohol and drug abuse.

The bottom line is this: anxiety disorders rarely go away on their own, indeed if help is not sought, there is a strong possibility that the disorder or disorders will get worse. A child with general anxiety disorder could grow into an young person with panic attacks, with phobias, and episodes of depression. This may eventually lead to a diagnosis of major depression, or interfere with education or keeping a job. In addition, many anxious adolescents and adults develop addictions to a controled substance as they try to “medicate” their anxiety symptoms to find calm.

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The immediate and long term consequences for a girls can be great, to say nothing of the impact on the entire family. A child suffering with an anxiety disorder can place tremendous stress on a marriage. What’s more, if only 1 person is suffering, it will be that child that the family focuses on and to whom parents give the majority of their time and energy. Consider how the sibling will feel: left out, unloved, less important. And if a parent has a hard time understanding the young womens disorder, imagine a young sibling, observing the sister getting incredible attention because she is afraid? Not only is severe anxiety difficult for a young girl/boy who does not suffer from it to understand, but it can lead to teasing and ridicule from siblings in the home. If anything, this will only serve to exacerbate the humiliation already associated with the disorder.

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Anorexia Symptoms

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For most people, anorexia is an extremely difficult disorder to understand. It is not a diet gone too far or a game played by a young girl to get attention from friend’s or a member of the family. Anorexia is a psychiatric disorder, not unlike depression or anxiety. Very simply defined, anorexia is self starvation. Those with this disorder literally starve themselves to a state of severe emaciation, or even death. And the thing is … once they start, it is very difficult to end the behaviors and go back to normal eating. This disease impacts everything: work, home, health, friendships … life.

Anorexia symptoms are physical, biological and behavioral. Because dieting is a key part of anorexia, many of the most common symptoms surround food and dieting. A girl/women with anorexia diets obsessively, when she is not overweight. In fact, she may have experienced a recent rapid weight loss fifteen percent or more below her normal body weight. Yet, she will constantly complain that she feels “heavy,” when this is clearly not a reality. Frequent weighing, even several times in one day, is fairly standard. Though dieting is always on her mind, so is the topic of food. It is not unusual for those with anorexia to have an extreme preoccupation with food, calories, nutrition, and/or cooking. As an extension of this, it is not unusual for a person with this disorder to talk about food a great deal.

A girl or woman with anorexia almost never eats, yet they typically denies being hungry. Of course, this is not true. When she actually does consume food, it is not unusual for her to engage in strange food-related behaviors. These include cutting food into little tiny pieces, only eating one food at a time, or placing unusual condiments on food items. Episodes of binge eating can also occur, simply due to a loss of control. Remember, these individuals are hungry, so when they finally give in and eat, it is sometimes very difficult to stop.

Not eating is hard enough on the body, but the problem is, she may also exercise to an extreme percentage. As a result of low nutrition and higher levels of exercising, they will probably experience amenorrhea, which means loss of her menstrual period. Strangely, though the hair on her head may fall out, they may undergo unusual hair growth on her arms and legs; basically, this is an effort by the body to make itself warm.

Although they may try to convey that they are at the top of the world, depression is often a symptom of anorexia, as is slowness of thought and memory difficulties. Most people feel this way due to the brain’s inability to function without adequate nutrition.

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If someone you know has anorexia or bulimia please encourage them to get help. There is a great deal of good information on the internet or in copyrighted articles. Inpatient treatment is often required to fully recover from anorexia. Since ninteen ninty, Remuda Programs for Eating Disorders has treated nearly 8,000 women and girls. Remuda Ruanch treatment center offers three distinct programs for children, adolescent girls and adults. Remuda has an unparalleled recovery rate of 95 percent over one, five and ten yrs.

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Anorexia Treatment

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In the US, eating disorders are far more than prevalent they are an epidemic. Today, ten million women and girls have eating disorders and up to one million of them will die from the disorder. That is right: die. These diseases are not confined to a certain segment of society or age group. Anorexia and bulimia cross all racial, ethnic, cultural and religious lines and are now being diagnosed in children as young as six.

Anorexia, perhaps the most devastating of these diseases, is characterized by self-starvation. People suffering from this disorder literally starve themselves to a state of severe emaciation, and even, death. This disease impacts every facet of a person’s life; indeed, a woman can become so ill that she is unable to work or care for her family.

Although anorexia revolves around food and eating, it is actually a psychiatric illness, not unlike depression or anxiety. professional care is usually required to break the compulsive behaviors and to addiction. Outpatient therapy is usually the 1st approach to treatment. A patient can often make substantial progress with the support of a good therapist, especially one who specializes in treating eating disorders. For the best possible outcome, a medical doctor and nutritionist or registered dietician should also be part of the team. For approximately seventy percent of eating disorder patients, this treatment will prove effective. However, for the other thirty percent, inpatient treatment at a residential center is often recommended.

Since 1990, Remuda Programs for Eating Disorders has treated nearly eight thousand patients. A full ninty-five percent remain in recovery after returning home. Located in Aa. and Virginia, Remuda provides distinct programs for children, adolescents and adults. Patients stay for 45 to sixty days because that is the length of time required for true and lasting change to occur. Each patient has an individualized treatment plan implemented by her own team of professionals. These include a Psychiatric Provider, Primary Care Practitioner, Registered Dietitian, Licensed Therapist, Psychologist, and Registered Nurses. Along with treating the eating disorder, her team also addresses multiple occurring disorders such as depression, anxiety, substance abuse, or trauma.

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Lasting recovery is the goal for every patient. Toward that end, Remuda Ranch treatment center utilizes every cutting edge therapy and innovative treatment approach. In addition to individual and group therapy, patients engage in experiential therapies such as art, body image, horse and challenge course.

Remuda Ranch wants family members to experience healing through growth, understanding and change. This is accomplished not only through therapeutic phone calls, but during an intensive Family Week, which occurs half way through treatment.

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